Vasectomy birth control for the man

Vasectomy does not reduce your sexual performance nor your manliness.

One recent topic in Daddy Matters (closed FB group) requested for “Vasectomy reference”. The subject raised a lot of pentup (pardon the pun) questions.

We guys sometimes wondered about Vasectomy (结扎), the benefits and comparison with ligation. We wanted to hear from someone who had done it before, as we are curious about potential side effects.

Vasectomy family planning
4 kids enough for us

It is a hush hush topic as we usually do not go around asking our colleagues, neighbours or kopi kakis about birth control, more specifically sterilisation. It is just not in guys’ DNA to talk about Family Planning (Asia is still quite conservative, and in some societies, male-sterilisation is taboo)

The Dads discussed about the pros and cons of Vasectomy, doctors (Urologist) reference, and surgical fees. The online feedback was fruitful, blunt and honest, yet reserving some level of privacy.

I would find it hard to discuss birth control face to face, too much intimacies to reveal :p

Vasectomy : It is not only about our manhood and mojo (libido)

Man’s health and family planning, Vasectomy might not be suitable for everyone. I hope this blog post will clear some doubts and raise awareness about the benefits.

Perhaps, more husbands will be encouraged to take a snip for the wife and family 🙂 (In case you are still clueless, Vasectomy is sterilisation for Man, there is an image under FAQ Section)

 

Ligation, Pill, Condom, Vasectomy etc

(withdrawal method is not birth control :p )

I did my Vasectomy back in 2009. It took me so long to blog about my experience as I am a conservative chap.

(Hint: Try not to YouTube Vasectomy as the procedure can be very graphic, I still feel uncomfortable at the thought of someone manhandling my testicles)

Most chaps (and even females) might assumed Birth Control equal Ligation. Some will expect the Mrs to stitch (ligate) after the last child’s birth.

Our spouse has to undergo the pain and trauma of childbearing, I truly believe we HUSBANDS can afford to take a few stitches for our darlings!

Read on if you wish to discover more about birth control options for the family.

1) Vasectomy Myths

– Although we are in 21st century, there are still a lot of myths about Vasectomy. Come on, go Google for the truth.

– This procedure is very common in Europe and US

– It is not castration (physical or medical), and procedure will not make you an eunuch (公公) !

– The procedure will not harm your manhood nor libido, and your testosterone level will not be affected.

– Vasectomy will not cause erectile dysfunction and you can still fulfill a husband’s sexual duties.

Let me share why your sexual experience might improve too.

2) Advantages of Vasectomy

– Faster recovery compared to ligation, and less side effects. Tying the fallopian tubes immediately after childbirth might be less effective

– Vasectomy is cheaper and faster (2 to 3 hours) compared to ligation

– Technically, the man is “infertile” as the tubes (vas deferens) carrying the sperm had been sealed/snipped

– Easier to reverse the procedure compared to ligation (although we should go in with the mindset of no U-turn)

– Procedure only requires local anesthesia, ie safer and cheaper ( ..you will grimace more from embarrassment than pain, as you are awake and aware that everyone in Operating Theatre can see your jewels)

– No more condoms, FREEDOM for couple!

– No more counting of ovulation window ( forecasting safe penetration)

– Husband and wife can be amorous after one week, although Doctor will caution about being too vigorous (you know yourself)

– Confident that I will not produce another baby, couple can relax more and enjoy the pleasures of love making ( Hooray!)

Happy Family
Happy Family

 

3) So, is Vasectomy for me?

Besides the surgical procedure. There are other considerations, which will be highlighted by your specialist.

– Couple must make a conscious decision about birth control. Four kids are definitely enough for me and wife :p

– Research and shortlist the Urology clinics (and consultants) in Singapore

– Private and Public fees are different, ask whether you can claim from Medisave or insurance

– Technically, reversal of Vasectomy is possible, but we should go through with a mindset of no U-turn

– Specialist consultations will share more about the procedure and help you come to a decision. We heard stories of reversal due to Unforeseen circumstances :

a) Death of child
b) Need to harvest cord blood of new birth to save siblings
c) Re-marriage
(no right or wrong answers above)

– Some men do stray after the procedure, blame the new “freedom” (same reasoning for Viagra)

– Do Google for “Side effects” and discuss your concerns with Doctor

– Although rare, there are instances of failed Vasectomy. As with all medical procedures (and condoms), there can never be 100% guarantee

 

 

4) Vasectomy FAQ

– Hard to illustrate before/after Vasectomy, see this image

– Penile functions will not degrade. You can definitely masturbate and achieve an erection ( Sexual health topics are very subjective )

– You will be able to ejaculate fluid, just that sperm is no longer present (in Army lingo, shoot Blanks)

– Fees between Public and Private can range from $800 to $2000 (estimation from 8 years ago). If you do not mind, please share latest rate with me

– Vasectomy procedure is day surgery about 2 to 3 hours, only local anesthesia is needed

– Small incisions on both scrotums are needed to disconnect the tubes. Besides slight swelling post procedure, the external wound should fully heal within months

– Not painful, only mild discomfort

– Recovery expected within a few days, but I was told to go easy on sports

Family planning Singapore
Family planning Singapore

So if you are still wondering whether we are planning to expand SengkangBabies, you have the answer now 🙂

I hope the above pointers would help to allay some of your concerns and fears. Naturally, the No 1 concern for most chaps are post-Vasectomy performance.

You may email me for my Doctor and additional details.

ps..

This post hopes to raise awareness about male contraception Vasectomy. If I should misrepresent some processes or my explanations are vague, do correct me. Birth control is a serious topic, pardon my attempt to inject some humour into subject.

De Ren Tang myopia treatment

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We are familiar with “Western” approach for myopia treatment, lasik or eye drops (for juniors) to slow down myopia. But I had never heard of TCM (Traditional Chinese Medicine) treatment for myopia before.

Imagine my surprise and doubt when De Ren Tang (德仁堂) invited us for a trial 🙂
myopia treatment

Is it effective, is it harmful, are there any side effects? I got the same questions too when both me and Boon Yee went for our assessment. But I do know TCM has been around for thousands of years.

No medication, acupuncture nor herbal ingestion, thus there are no side effects. De Ren Tang offers age old practice of massaging the body nerves and 筋 (jin1).

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The session will start with assessment of our eyesight, this is done before and after every session.

For the younger ones, Chinese TCM believes that posture and body plays an important part for eyesight well being. Thus massaging our back (spine), and nerves play a crucial part of treatment.

Structured massage will focus on accupoints (穴位) for eye improvement.

Massaging around the eye socket and scalp to relax our eye muscles. In modern society, when we are stressed or tense, we can feel uncomfortable (throbbing) at our temple.

We learnt how TCM use massage to disperse the negative energy and improve our well being.

Gua Sha (刮痧) around our eyes to relax any muscle tension and improve blood circulation (气血循环). Blood capillaries carry blood around our body system, Gua Sha would help to clear congestion (堵塞) along the paths.

We can see Boon Yee’s face flush after every Gua Sha session.

We were told above TCM treatments are very common in China, primary school going children have “eye exercises” in classroom twice a day to improve their vision too.

Have I improved my eyesight? Measurements are taken after every session, and you should see some improvements after a few sessions.

Myopia treatment effectiveness will be different from person to person. In Singapore, a myopic child most likely inherits the genes from parents.

TCM practices would still encourage good eye habits from young to preserve our eyesight (30cm from book, minimise prolonged screen time, avoid reading in dim lighting etc)

Yee looks forward to his weekly treatment. The doctor’s tender massage and soothing ambiance always lull him into a state of total relaxation. Soothing, and I felt happy for him too 🙂

De Ren Tang is recommending a minimum of 10 or 20 sessions to really feel the improvements. Each session for a child and adult are 60 and 30 minutes respectively.

Do take note that De Ren Tang’s treatment is more effective for kids as their corneas are still growing. Continual treatment will be possible to slow down myopia degree and even improve eyesight.

However, adults’ eyesight degrees have already stabilised, treatment will only control myopia from getting worse. TCM massage session will reduce tension around eye sockets.

De Ren Tang (德仁堂) would like to raise awareness for TCM method of myopia treatment. If you are looking for eyesight well being, do give De ren Tang treatment a trial. You may view De Ren Tang doctors (医师) certifications here.

Each package is $880 for 11 sessions, first time customer from our blog will enjoy up to 30% discount.

We just knew that 纳米负离子医学眼镜 (negative ion medical glasses) can help improve our situation.

A. Product Decsription
Product composition and decomposition ability: tourmaline (maifanite, ochre, tourmaline, lava), Manufactured by Kang Li’s patented technology

Efficacy statement: Tourmaline can release negative ions (1100 to 1700 negative ions per cubic centimeter) and the far infrared, Lens can shield the harmful rays such as blue light and ultraviolet ray and so on.
Eye diseases are mainly caused by lack of water or oxygen, mobile blue radiation and Magnetic radiation.

B. Glasses effectiveness
1. Releasing negative ions
2. Blocking all radiations
3. Promoting blood circulation and balancing eye blood pressure
4. Diluting canthus wrinkles
5. There is a miraculous effect on rhinitis

The specifications claim that we can see improvements within a month for those suffering from myopia, hyperopia, astigmatism and presbyopia.

Reduce degree by about 50 degrees after 3-5 months of usage.
The glasses can shield harmful lights emitted from electronic devices like mobile phones, computers, etc

For best effect, we are recommend to wear our negative ion glasses for at least 8 to 10 hours per day.

*Please refer to these two links (here and here) for product explanation.

 

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You may read up more details about De Ren Tang in article below.

De Ren Tang 德仁堂 address – 10, Anson Road, International Plaza, #02-81, S079903
Contact – 6534 8187
Website – http://www.derentangtcm.com

Anyone wish to participate in Singapore Zoo Run?

[ Tickets Giveaway ]

Have you heard of Singapore Zoo Run?
Zoo Run 2015 will be the seventh edition.
Singapore Zoo Run

On 07Feb (Competitive) and 08Feb (families), humans will be dashing around the Zoo and perhaps Night Safari grounds. Family route might take you 6km near lush green foliage, expect Giraffes and Elephants to be bewildered 🙂

The race was first started to remember Ah Meng, Singapore Zoo’s (and I dare say Singapore) most iconic icon (Orang Utan).

Dates and times : Safari Zoo Challenge (competitive)
07Feb 2015 from 4pm – 7pm

Safari Zoo Fun Run (Family, relaxing)
08Feb 2015
Races : 9am – 12pm, and carnival : 10am – 3pm

Registration is now available at this link –> SafariZooRun.com.sg and Early Bird registration ends on 31 December.

Family can expect fun activities at the carnival after 08Feb’s run.
Do pop by WRS (Wildlife Reserves Singapore) Website and Fanpage for the latest updates.

Are you ready to get Wild with your family?
Thanks to WRS and Singapore Zoo, we have two Family Packs (contains two adults and two kids, worth up to $232) to giveaway. Winners will be able to enjoy Zoo Run 2015 in Feb followed by carnival activities.

1. Contest is on our Fanpage
2. Contestants must first LIKE WRS and SengkangBabies Fanpage
3. Leave your name and email on our Fanpage (or you can message email address to us)
4. Tell us your expectation/s from a Singapore Zoo Run.

5. Share this page (refer step 3) on your Facebook Wall and tag @SengkangBabiesBlog
(so that we know you are participating)
6. Contest ends 24Dec 10pm, and two winners will be randomly picked.

All images above credit WRS