Talking about Love and Affection

Sunday Life interviewed us about how we demostrate “Love and Affection” at home, now and then.

During Daddy and Mummy’s childhood years, our families are the conservative and traditional type. Openly Kissing and hugging are just not us. Our parents display affection in other ways, cooking your favourite food, bringing you to a show etc.

Daddy told us that it was awkward when 奶奶 hug him after he scores well in his PSLE :p
That could be the only hugging memory from his childhood.

Maybe, what he lacks during his youth, he tries to lavish on the kids.
Daddy is very comfortable kissing the kids (cheek not lips), and he believes holding their hands reinforce parents’ love and reassure them that we care.

It is definitely ok for spouse to kiss and embrace each other infront of the kids.
Outdoors is another story, we are still shy 🙂

The full article is here, checkout how other families show their affection at home.

Some of the questions posed to us :
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– Growing up, did your parents use to show you physical affection? Or did they rule solely with feather dusters and canes?

– What was your relationship like with your parents on that front (physical affection), and did it change as the years went by? Eg they became more expressive in your adulthood?

– What kinds of physical affection (kisses, hugs, etc) did they show or not show?
Any anecdotes on this front that you can recall? Be they embarrassing ones, moving memories, etc.
(Eg: When was the first time your mother/father hugged you, and what was the scenario/circumstance like? How did you feel? Awkward, embarrassed?)

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Above family photo is from the post When Mummy and Daddy kiss, we had volunteered to summit another kissing photo ♥

Video : Catch Daddy kissing Boon Xin

Who is Daddy’s Valentine?

Who is Daddy’s Valentine?
This might seem like a dummy question, but I was that Dummy 10 years ago.

A group of Daddies (Daddy Matters) are penning their Love Stories in the run up to 14th Feb. I was going through some of the “handsome and pretty” photos from our wedding studio shoots from 2000.

Kids would be happy to caption some photos “Daddy pull your ear, orh-bee-good !”.
Studio shoot

Children always like to ask “How, When, What and Why”.
We adults sometime face the same scenario too, especially on matters of the Heart.

When Love comes knocking, can we use use Logic or Science to derive an explanation?
Is there such a thing as 缘分 (destiny)?

“WHAT” is Romance?

爱要怎么说. I am not Romantic.
We do not celebrate Valentine’s day (gasps).
And I did not even kneel to propose !
Man, we held our wedding banquet in our humble HDB !!

Both of us do not need 14th Feb to express our Love 🙂

After our marriage, it seems more pragmatic to celebrate our union everyday then on a specific day (which only makes florists and restaurants Happy)

We are alike in that we choose 面包 over 爱情 ♥

“WHEN” did I got to know Meng Choo?
“WHY” is she the one?

I got to know Meng Choo through my work.
While I was repairing PCs, she was my customer.

I remember her as friendly and approachable.
Meng Choo is frank and outspoken, sweet and unpretentious.
She always has a listening ear for her friends.

Then she left for another job, but I managed to grab her number from her colleague.
(If I did not grab her number, would there be SengkangBabies today?)

We enjoy each other’s company during group outings.
Before Facebook, we had ICQ then.
Online and offline, we became good friends.

Meng Choo knew about the girls I was trying to tackle, and would even offer suggestions on how to approach a girl.

It was after a few failed dates that I realised my foolishness.
There I was, searching high and low for the perfect girlfriend, and I missed the one right infront of me!

I have always treated Meng Choo as a good buddy, then I suddenly realised I have found a GEM (明珠 literally luminous pearl).

How should I approach her, how do I express my interest to grab her hand?
My heart flutters whenever I think of her.
Is she going to be my first LOVE?

Finally, I picked up my courage and pop the question “Can you be my girlfriend?”
Actually I ask something like “Can I hold your hand?” (shy).

On hindsight, Meng Choo already knew my intentions beforehand, but she still had her reservations. I was so Glad when she finally agree to be my Steady ♥

Funny how Destiny will knock on your door when you least expect it.

“HOW” did Mummy Meng Choo agree to go steady with Daddy Andy?

Monthly anniversaries, milestones, missing you on the 61th day, we two love birds pen letters for every reason. A letter is so much more personal than an email, especially when we reveal it to the kids after a decade 🙂

Lovey Dovey and Mushy 肉麻.
love letters

Knowing that she is a 张学友 (Jackie Cheung) fan, I will memorise his lyrics and sing for her. Eventually, the song 今生注定 (translation Our Destiny in this life, by 王馨平/高明骏) defines our Love Story.

“不管有多少真心多少爱被错过
有了你我已经别无所求
用半生紧紧相守换取承诺”
Click for song here.

We still safe keep the Love letters (not the Chinese New Year cookies).
Every letter, cartoon, and paragraph time-stamped and sealed our Love.

We do miss the freedom when we were still dating and enjoying our honeymoon.
Midnight movies, suppers, and holidays on the spur of the moment.

真开心!

Till today, after 4 kids, I still cannot find an explanation on how we glued together.
Do we really need a reason for LOVE?

We would not trade anything for our Happy Family 🙂

Thank you Meng Choo, for always supporting me, even when I am unreasonable.
Thank you Darling, for making me a better man.

Let me be the man who will Cherish and LOVE you, Forever.
Happy Valentine’s Day ♥

This post is part of a Valentine’s Day series, brought to you by Daddy Matters.

Checkout the Dads’ Love stories, we got 14 Dads for 14th Feb dedication !

01 – Nick’s game of Romance Kingdom helps him find his perfect partner
02 – Eddie’s spouse follows him to Bangkok
03 – Howard’s Love poem
04 – Darren 捡到宝了
05 – Andy could not see his life partner standing right in front of him (eyes got stamp!)
06 – Ken’s Love journey started on a Manila jeepney
07 – Winston and spouse talk about no Balls! *gulp*fierce*
08 – Patrick’s soulmate is the girl behind his success
09 – Edmund believes True Love has no ending 🙂
10 – David shows his daughter how a man should Love his wife
11 – Kelvin and Mrs experience “Life is unpredictable”, and are now soul mates
12 – Isaiah’s 21st Vday celebration with Klessis, and they still look so youthful!
13 – M is never alone as his darling (+2 boys) fills his heart
14 – Lucian’s home is never short of Love and Chocolate. Who needs Vday :p

On a side note, we will be sharing more about family life and Romance :
– 14th Feb this Friday on Ch8 1030pm 人气满屋2
The New Age Parents‘ Valentine feature, asking “Who wears the pants at home?

Video : Studio shots of kids 2009, all look so cute then !

Mummy is Daddy’s first Love

Online magazine The New Age Parents are featuring two Dads for their Valentine Feature.
And Daddy Andy is announcing online that Mummy is his first Love 🙂

Some of the questions 🙂
– Where and when did you meet?
– Who’s the one who wears the pants in the relationship?
– Who is the more romantic one and why (could you share some examples)?
– How has having children changed married life for the both of you?
– How do you keep the flame burning? Any tip to share?
– What’s your secret to a successful and happy marriage?

We are sharing some tips for Date Nights too.

Pop by this link page 41-42 for Daddy Andy’s love confession 🙂

Dearest Mengchoo my Love,
Be My Valentine ♥

be my valentine

*teaser* Next week, a group of Dads will be sharing their mushy Valentine’s 浪漫 stories 🙂

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