Vasectomy does not reduce your sexual performance nor your manliness.
One recent topic in Daddy Matters (closed FB group) requested for “Vasectomy reference”. The subject raised a lot of pent–up (pardon the pun) questions.
We guys sometimes wondered about Vasectomy (结扎), the benefits and comparison with ligation. We wanted to hear from someone who had done it before, as we are curious about potential side effects.
It is a hush hush topic as we usually do not go around asking our colleagues, neighbours or kopi kakis about birth control, more specifically sterilisation. It is just not in guys’ DNA to talk about Family Planning (Asia is still quite conservative, and in some societies, male-sterilisation is taboo)
The Dads discussed about the pros and cons of Vasectomy, doctors (Urologist) reference, and surgical fees. The online feedback was fruitful, blunt and honest, yet reserving some level of privacy.
I would find it hard to discuss birth control face to face, too much intimacies to reveal :p
Vasectomy : It is not only about our manhood and mojo (libido)
Man’s health and family planning, Vasectomy might not be suitable for everyone. I hope this blog post will clear some doubts and raise awareness about the benefits.
Perhaps, more husbands will be encouraged to take a snip for the wife and family 🙂 (In case you are still clueless, Vasectomy is sterilisation for Man, there is an image under FAQ Section)
Ligation, Pill, Condom, Vasectomy etc
(withdrawal method is not birth control :p )
I did my Vasectomy back in 2009. It took me so long to blog about my experience as I am a conservative chap.
(Hint: Try not to YouTube Vasectomy as the procedure can be very graphic, I still feel uncomfortable at the thought of someone manhandling my testicles)
Most chaps (and even females) might assumed Birth Control equal Ligation. Some will expect the Mrs to stitch (ligate) after the last child’s birth.
Our spouse has to undergo the pain and trauma of childbearing, I truly believe we HUSBANDS can afford to take a few stitches for our darlings!
Read on if you wish to discover more about birth control options for the family.
1) Vasectomy Myths
– Although we are in 21st century, there are still a lot of myths about Vasectomy. Come on, go Google for the truth.
– This procedure is very common in Europe and US
– It is not castration (physical or medical), and procedure will not make you an eunuch (公公) !
– The procedure will not harm your manhood nor libido, and your testosterone level will not be affected.
– Vasectomy will not cause erectile dysfunction and you can still fulfill a husband’s sexual duties.
Let me share why your sexual experience might improve too.
2) Advantages of Vasectomy
– Faster recovery compared to ligation, and less side effects. Tying the fallopian tubes immediately after childbirth might be less effective
– Vasectomy is cheaper and faster (2 to 3 hours) compared to ligation
– Technically, the man is “infertile” as the tubes (vas deferens) carrying the sperm had been sealed/snipped
– Easier to reverse the procedure compared to ligation (although we should go in with the mindset of no U-turn)
– Procedure only requires local anesthesia, ie safer and cheaper ( ..you will grimace more from embarrassment than pain, as you are awake and aware that everyone in Operating Theatre can see your jewels)
– No more condoms, FREEDOM for couple!
– No more counting of ovulation window ( forecasting safe penetration)
– Husband and wife can be amorous after one week, although Doctor will caution about being too vigorous (you know yourself)
– Confident that I will not produce another baby, couple can relax more and enjoy the pleasures of love making ( Hooray!)
3) So, is Vasectomy for me?
Besides the surgical procedure. There are other considerations, which will be highlighted by your specialist.
– Couple must make a conscious decision about birth control. Four kids are definitely enough for me and wife :p
– Research and shortlist the Urology clinics (and consultants) in Singapore
– Private and Public fees are different, ask whether you can claim from Medisave or insurance
– Technically, reversal of Vasectomy is possible, but we should go through with a mindset of no U-turn
– Specialist consultations will share more about the procedure and help you come to a decision. We heard stories of reversal due to Unforeseen circumstances :
a) Death of child
b) Need to harvest cord blood of new birth to save siblings
(no right or wrong answers above)
– Some men do stray after the procedure, blame the new “freedom” (same reasoning for Viagra)
– Do Google for “Side effects” and discuss your concerns with Doctor
– Although rare, there are instances of failed Vasectomy. As with all medical procedures (and condoms), there can never be 100% guarantee
4) Vasectomy FAQ
– Hard to illustrate before/after Vasectomy, see this image
– Penile functions will not degrade. You can definitely masturbate and achieve an erection ( Sexual health topics are very subjective )
– You will be able to ejaculate fluid, just that sperm is no longer present (in Army lingo, shoot Blanks)
– Fees between Public and Private can range from $800 to $2000 (estimation from 8 years ago). If you do not mind, please share latest rate with me
– Vasectomy procedure is day surgery about 2 to 3 hours, only local anesthesia is needed
– Small incisions on both scrotums are needed to disconnect the tubes. Besides slight swelling post procedure, the external wound should fully heal within months
– Not painful, only mild discomfort
– Recovery expected within a few days, but I was told to go easy on sports
So if you are still wondering whether we are planning to expand SengkangBabies, you have the answer now 🙂
I hope the above pointers would help to allay some of your concerns and fears. Naturally, the No 1 concern for most chaps are post-Vasectomy performance.
You may email me for my Doctor and additional details.
This post hopes to raise awareness about male contraception Vasectomy. If I should misrepresent some processes or my explanations are vague, do correct me. Birth control is a serious topic, pardon my attempt to inject some humour into subject.