Daddy talks about Kiasu and Kancheong parents on Razor TV

Daddy went on TV recording again.
RazorTv is an informal media platform for SPH, and you get the latest video recordings about current affairs and sensational headlines.

Joining two other parents (Suzy and Dominic), Daddy got to share his views on parenting, Kiasu and Kancheong parents, and PSLE ! It was another fun experience, but it was tiring to go through the three hours session. If you noticed, Daddy was nervous throughout the recording, thumb twiddling, eyes blinking haha.

Interestingly, the parents share a few view points :

– We do not deny KanCheong (anxious) parents exist, but we do not see the need to engage in desperate measures to ensure our kids have a better start (no Tiger mum)

– We all enjoyed our Kampong (village) childhood days, catching guppies, spiders, grasshoppers, lesser homework then

– Although we are all reluctant, we agree PSLE is a defining milestone for the kids 🙁

– We wish more parents would allow kids to settle their own disputes in school, thereby learning about problem management and negotiation.

Over the few hours, we got to interact and share our views on four broad topics.

a) Challenges of raising child, are we Kan Cheong?
– Kids do not know how to relax nowadays.
– Every child should have a memorable childhood, and homework/tuition is not supposed to be our childhood !
– a good education and moral foundation brings up a responsible adult (hopefully)
– we only have up to pre-teenange years(maybe 12years old) to impart our our parenting tips, after that kids will be influenced by peers.
– we do not need our kids to be No 1 , but please do not be the last one 🙂
– we hope our kids will put in effort, and try their best
– We ask our kids to be Honest with us. Parents can then understand the situation better, and come up with recommendations
– In this Ipad generation, kids get their resources and knowledge everywhere. We need to show them right/wrong earlier.
– Kids in SG are fortunate. We do not understand hunger, or to sleep without a roof. How do kids learn to appreciate?

b) How are parents responding to Rat race education style
– try to introduce structure timetables from young, rather than cramped everything one month before exam
– tuition is a last option for us. Not because we like giving kids extra homework, but sometimes our coaching method might teach kids the “wrong” concept (eg Maths modeling)
– Kids need to understand the question, before they can answer it. Trick questions or a lack of English mastery, actually discounts kid’s proficiency in maths
– Teachers are also human, and parents must network together with school and teachers to help a child,.
– Too many parents love to complain, over the smallest matters. Let the teachers do their job, ie to Teach.

c) What was the parent’s growing up years? Did we have more fun last time?
– We send them to childcare because we need them to learn how to interact, sharing and taking turns.
– Kids learn team-building and group participation, rather than be self-centered.

d) Signs to look out for when kids are struggling?
– lying, and hoping nobody finds out. Our child will tell teacher he forgot to bring book, and tell Mummy no homework.The lies will snowball.
– suddenly losing interest in a favourite sports or subject

Instead of scolding kids, we need to understand what is happening in the first place.

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Our discussion are summarised into a total of 8 clips.
(click on the links below for the video clips)

1.1 Kancheong parents?
1.2 Social pressures = more enrichment classes?
1.3 Education then and now
1.4 Play time vs ABCs

2.1 How to save our child’s sanity !
2.2 Better and more quality teachers please
2.3 PSLE stress out kids, or parents?
2.4 Parents redefine success?

Does any parents out there face the same anxiety as us?

In summary, we will let our kids decide their own schools, curriculum and paths, but we need to ask them about their rationale.

Kids need role models during their formative years, and parents just need to make time for the kids, to share their joy, sorrows and milestones 🙂

Marina Bay is our playground

Loving Marina Bay is a month long event to celebrate Marina Bay’s events and transformation through twenty amBayssadors. We are the photographers and bloggers who have captured some fragments of Marina Bay’s memories

SengkangBabies is honoured to be one of Marina Bay’s amBAYssadors.

From this tag cloud, you know Marina Bay is always happening for us ! From GardensByTheBay, MarinaBarrage, to MBS and Merlion fireworks, our kids have covered so much milage around Marina Bay (POSB, ColdStorage Kids Run and Maybank). When Singapore Army brings their toys to Marina Bay, we never miss the lighlights like AOH and NDP mobile columns !

Our long history with Marina Bay..

Now, try to imagine why we have problems picking our best experiences at Marina Bay?

Back to last Sat’s Loving Marina Bay event. It was an opportunity to catch up with old buddies, and make new friends. You can find out who else is featured at this link.

*Photo courtesy from Darren Chin.

Daddy’s favourite photo is Andrew Ng’s Funfair and..

Kelvin‘s rockstar son, Ayden !!

Slideshow of the other amBAYssadors. Each entry offers more jaw-dropping photos and perspectives. Daddy is really humbled that our blog is featured 🙂

SengkangBabies’ photo compilation are from “wishing spheres“, “Merlion Hotel“, “Gardens Skywalk” and “Barrage soccer“.

We would be equally proud if any of the photos below are shortlisted 🙂

In 2013, we hope to get tickets to F1 and NDP parade (four years without tickets), and that should add to our to-do lists in Marina Bay 🙂

Loving Marina Bay‘s photos displays are not only about modern MarinaBaySands or GardensByTheBay. It is also tracing the history from old Clifford pier. Hey, when we mention Marina in the 80s and 90s, it was referring to Marina Square and not Marina Bay 🙂

This is one of the better videos to see how Marina Bay has transformed.

We are familiar with the Merlion, Flyer, Helix bridge, MBS and Esplanade, but Daddy thought the unassuming “The Float” was actually the platform which brought big scale events to the Bay. With NDP, New Year countdowns, RiverHongbao or F1 races, we can always spot the Yellow/Blue/Red/Green rows of seats. Build to “temporary” host events with the demise of National Stadium, The float has become a central point of events.

If the iconic buildings are the organs of Marina Bay, then the people and events will be it’s lifeblood. Marina Bay is the place to be seen, or to soak in the atmosphere.

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Andy is a proud father of four, and he calls his kids the ambassadors of Fun. He started his family blog to dispel the myth that Singapore is boring and to document his kids’ childhood. Kids’ growing milestones bring his family a great deal of pride and fond memories and he hopes to share their joy with more families via SengkangBabies. The family is honoured to be Marina Bay’s amBAYssadors as it happens to be one of their favourite playgrounds. There are so many activities for everyone from three to eighty years old!

(Video credit Darren Chin)

With the quote above, Daddy is telling more people to pop by Marina Bay with friends and families. A few events have been lined up to engage the public :

– photography workshops and competition
– heritage walks and more

* Do drop by Loving Marina Bay link for the details.

Click for more photos from SengkangBabies’ Fun albums.

ps.. we wanted to surprise the kids, so we did not tell them about our “poster and booth”. SengkangBabies are now mini celebrities at Marina Bay :p

Daddy appeared on 早安您好 to share his parenting thoughts

Daddy and two other participants were invited to Mediacorp TV8’s morning lifestyle programe, 早安您好. It all started when Daddy was recommended by Audrey to 早安您好’s producer, and he thought it was only a phone interview.

..until Daddy found out he had to appear in Mediacorp studio in two days !
Daddy has to share his parenting thoughts on Dads’ involvement in family, and community events.

Daddy knows how to handle kids, but to show and tell “Live” is a whole new experience all together ! Will his Mandarin be good enough, will his nerves hold?

Fortunately, all went well. The three participants mingled well with each other, and the hosts 琪琪 and 林有懿 guide us along with their questions. Although Daddy was still nervous during the show, “Talking about kids” calm him down.

Watch our TV recording to see how Daddy fare.

We hope Daddy has successfully bring his Daddy-involvement message across, and more Dads will be encourage to bond with their kids and family more.

Personally, Daddy hopes society will finally grant Daddies at least two weeks of paternity leave for every newborn. It is way overdue to acknowledge Dad’s involvement in family building.