Boon Xin 9th Birthday

Happy 9 years old, Boon Xin ๐Ÿ™‚
This photo was taken when she was 2.

TIME FLIES!

From young, our princess is a feisty fellow. Ah Xin can be very strong willed and independent,ย  but Boon Xin always has our family in her heart.

Daddy and Mummy just want her to be Happy and Chirpy, always ๐Ÿ™‚

Tsum Tsum cake
Tsum Tsum cake

Thank you to https://riverashbakery.com (Facebook and Instagram) for the cute Tsum Tsum cake! Boon Xin specially requested for Tsum Tsum as she remembered the cuteย  characters from her 8th birthday linkย .

We got an ice-cream drip cake for this round, this is still one of the cutest Tsum Tsum cake in the market ๐Ÿ™‚

As part of the celebration, we also did a mini-filming for a Father’s Day segment on Ch8 news segment.

We would be sharing how families can have Fun in Singapore, without going to huge expenses. Try Parks, Sports and the great outdoors.

My idea is simply to drag the kids out of the house, so they would be less addicted to electronic devices.

 

Jenga and Monopoly are some of the family activities which we can enjoy at home ๐Ÿ™‚

Managing our Family is all about Managing our Expectations, I admit this is Easier said than done. We are trying to encourage our kids to think Positive and aim for their Dreams.

How can we forget about Studies and homework? We pretend to be studious haha.

When you have teenagers, it is harder to ask them to cooperate during photo shoot (blog engagements eg).

I am honoured that my teenagers were very cooperative that day. They reallyย ็ป™ๆˆ‘้ขๅญ (Give Face) haha.

I was telling the Mrs that this could be the last time SengkangBabies are filmed as kids are now older and might value their privacy more.

We are always advocating Sports for family bonding. Besides keeping fit, it is a great opportunity to keep our family strong.

I hope kids will pick up Sportsmanship traits like discipline and grit.

Do visit our Running, Hiking, Cycling and Camping features for more ideas.

These kids trash me in basketball, but I do not mind.ย  I am proud that the older siblings will pass down basketball tips to the younger ones.

No need to be professional players, I just want them to enjoy their sports and pursue their passions.

 

Did you notice our sports-themed attire? Whenever I go running, I will choose a kids-size finisher Tshirt for them.

YES, Boon Xin ran 21km :p

Spending the evening with her favourite folks, and food ๐Ÿ™‚
ๅฅถๅฅถ joined us at Sushi Tei for some yummy Japanese treats.

Sushi Teh
Sushi Teh

Another Birthday gone. Very Soon, all my kids will be teenagers, but we are still calling them Sengkang Babies haha.

As long as our kids are Happy and Healthy, we parents will be contented ๐Ÿ™‚

Sharing our previous Fun filming engagements :

Blog:ไบบๆฐ”ๆปกๅฑ‹ (Season 2, EP2)
Video: https://video.toggle.sg/en/series/meet-my-family-s2-2/ep2/328351

Blog:็™พๅˆ†็™พๆ–ฐๅŠ ๅก (No7 Old Playground)
Video:https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=2&v=cOxoZuzOGw8

Blog:ๅฐๅ†œๅคซ (Season 1, EP10)
Video : https://video.toggle.sg/en/series/fresh-farmers/ep10/360338

Are you a racist?

Are you a racist? Am I a racist?

Channel News Asia (CNA) and Institute of Policy Studies (IPS) conducted a nation-wide race survey recently. The results are “revealing and eye-opening”. Link to Survey

The recent CNA documentary “Regardless of Race” was insightful, with Dr Janil asking some direct race questions.

Not really no-holds-barred, but we got some frank and perhaps “unsettling” responses. Think about taboo topics, stereotypes, and racist insinuations.

* Everyone is entitled to his own opinion, and the content reflected on my blog represents only my own opinion *

I had the opportunity to share my own viewpoints on Talking Point this week (Video Toggle link, from 13 minutes 20 seconds onwards)
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Race discussions can be sensitive and easily taken out of context.
Channel news Asia IPS race survey 1

During Racial Harmony Day, kids would don different costumes to school, reflecting Singapore’s multi-cultural society. But is this once a year event enough to teach our kids about racism?
Channel news Asia IPS race survey 2
(Images from CNA IPS survey)

As a parent, I am always trying to find the right opportunity to share why Singapore’s racial harmony should not be taken for granted.

I had previously blog about why racism will remain in Singapore, and to pretend otherwise borders on hypocrisy (blog link). The survey results showcase some undercurrent, which we cannot deny, but should try to understand more. Sweeping our “fears of engagement” under the carpet, just because we feel topic might be insensitive, would not help to clarify anything.

We should not be afraid to discuss Racism with our kids, we just need to find teachable moments to impart the right values (and respect).

The challenge is everyone is using different yardsticks to define racism.
We might feel we are not racists but our actions and behaviour might project another angle.
In other words, I can be a racist without realising it!

I do not really endorse the term Racial “Tolerance”.
After 50 years of independence, surely Singapore must have move beyond tolerance?
I am actively educating and talking my kids to embrace and celebrate Singapore’s multi-cultural diversity.

Most of us believe that kids are colour blind and non-judgmental.
Kids play together, become best friends simply because they enjoy each other’s company.
It is only after they are influenced by external environment (perhaps parents and peers) that they start exhibiting racist behaviours.

Personally, I belief that we should teach kids the right values when they are still young and impressionable. Parents are their role models.

Growing up, I did shared that I have buddies from other races that we were comfortable to tease each other with some racial jokes.
No malice, no ill will, we “disturb” each other because we know each other well.

Times have changed, and it is more “sensitive” to tease each with racist jokes nowadays. I am not saying that it should be recommended, but Singaporeans used to gel a lot easier then.

Society is getting more complex as Singapore gets more cosmopolitan.
Mixed marriages, Chinese from China, Indians from India, our cultural melting pot is growing bigger with more ingredients.
I would assume the cooking recipe is now more elaborate and harder to master.

One of the survey results indicate that it is ok to have friends from different races, but the same correspondents would not encourage marriage out of their own race. (The image below indicated that only 20+ percent of Chinese correspondents would accept non-Chinese son or daughter in law.)
CNA IPS survey
(image credit CNA IPS survey)

Why is this mentality still existing in the 21st century?

I have always advocate for mutual affection and love as the basis for a marriage. Neither skin colour, race nor religion should obstruct Love.

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There are many more example in the “Regardless of Race” series of videos, and some findings might make us uncomfortable, but these are all happening day in day out.

1. Regardless of Race” segments are asking Singaporeans to re-evaluate our position or racial harmony. Can we do more? Can we care more and move forward together as an inclusive society?
(Video link)

There are two segments within which makes the most impact on me.
When Dr Janil interviews the P3 students, their replies are frank and direct, and it makes me realise that racial harmony is always a process.
It is not just reciting the Singapore Pledge, but living our pledge.

2. I am a parent myself, and kids should not face discriminatory remarks in school, or worse engage in bullying of others (Video link)

3. Dr Janil ask questions and participants step infront or behind. The end result shows Chinese members in the front, suggesting that Chinese (Singapore’s majority ethnicity group) do enjoy more “privileges” in Singapore. Video link.

I am actively teaching my kids to embrace and treasure Singapore’s multi-cultural scene.
Where else can we find different places of worship co-existing together harmoniously?

We recommend fellow parents to visit Little India, Kampong Glam and perhaps even participate in a place-of-worship orientation (eg Ramadan at Sultan mosque).

Look for teachable moments, focus on the Positive aspect of race relations.
Be it adults or children, be open and we can all agree to disagree.
If it is any consolation, it is easier to talk about racism compared to sex education :p

Regardless of Race, Language and Religion.
Let us strive to live up to our Pledge.

Additional details :
– Full CNA IPS Survey results
– Talking Point panel discussion (Toggle link)
(Start from 13 min 20 seconds)
Onepeople.sg promotes Racial Harmony in Singapore
– Related Channel News Asia articles, Part 1, 2 and 3.