Talking about Love and Affection

Sunday Life interviewed us about how we demostrate “Love and Affection” at home, now and then.

During Daddy and Mummy’s childhood years, our families are the conservative and traditional type. Openly Kissing and hugging are just not us. Our parents display affection in other ways, cooking your favourite food, bringing you to a show etc.

Daddy told us that it was awkward when 奶奶 hug him after he scores well in his PSLE :p
That could be the only hugging memory from his childhood.

Maybe, what he lacks during his youth, he tries to lavish on the kids.
Daddy is very comfortable kissing the kids (cheek not lips), and he believes holding their hands reinforce parents’ love and reassure them that we care.

It is definitely ok for spouse to kiss and embrace each other infront of the kids.
Outdoors is another story, we are still shy 🙂

The full article is here, checkout how other families show their affection at home.

Some of the questions posed to us :
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– Growing up, did your parents use to show you physical affection? Or did they rule solely with feather dusters and canes?

– What was your relationship like with your parents on that front (physical affection), and did it change as the years went by? Eg they became more expressive in your adulthood?

– What kinds of physical affection (kisses, hugs, etc) did they show or not show?
Any anecdotes on this front that you can recall? Be they embarrassing ones, moving memories, etc.
(Eg: When was the first time your mother/father hugged you, and what was the scenario/circumstance like? How did you feel? Awkward, embarrassed?)

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Above family photo is from the post When Mummy and Daddy kiss, we had volunteered to summit another kissing photo

Video : Catch Daddy kissing Boon Xin

How to Stay Prepared in an emergency

Sometimes, Daddy acts paranoid and wonder whether we know how to react during a crisis. How do we Stay Prepared?

If the adults are not prepared, what more the kids?

Recently, Temasek Cares distributed “Stay Prepared” bundles (N95 masks and emergency contact numbers) to all homes. We are expecting Indonesia’s Haze to return.

Singapore free n95 masks

What happens when a fire breakout? A lift breakdown?
Do we know which number to dial?
Do kids know how (and where) to shout for help?

Fire Escape HDB
Emergency number lift

More crisis scenarios.

How many of us have experience water and food rationing before?
Do we know where is the nearest bomb shelter (MRT)?
(are you really going to hide in your HDB bomb shelter?)

The Little India riot shows how helpless we can be.
Do we wait for riot police to control the situation?
Do we listen for latest updates on FM radio or TV channel?
What if our TV network is down?

Too many IFs ! We need an Emergency checklist.

It is up to us parents to raise our kids’ safety awareness.
If we adults do not know how to Stay Prepared for an emergency, the kids would be worse off.

Here are some of the basic things which we teach our kids :

1) In the event of a fire.
– evacuate everyone outside
– ask neighbours to call 995
– if fire is huge, head for staicase escape route, walk down the stairs

Kids must know where are the keys, and tall enough to open the doors and run outside.
(We have to assume that adults might be unconscious)

Video : Dry run – Kids walking down HDB staircase

2) Do we know what to do if someone suffers a burn, cut or fall?
Do we know how to apply first aid? (Boon Kang’s bad fall)

Ideally, someone in the home is trained with First Aid. This life saving skill can be helpful in a community.
Where to learn first aid

We need to improve our civic mindfulness too. Some of us have the “not my business” or “someone will do it” mentality. We often heard stories of how vehicles refuse to give way to ambulances !

Video : Look at how Germany give way to emergency services

More information about First Aid
SCDF courses (Learn about First AID, CPR, AED)
– refer poster above, do check with your RC or CC whether they have First Aid awareness courses
Rapid Rescue App, sends a signal to the nearest First Aider (not available for Android)

3) Do we have a First Aid box at home?
Do we know what to keep inside a First Aid box?
Where to buy First Aid box

4) Besides the First Aid box, an Emergency Grab Bag will come in useful too.
More about Stay Prepared campaign.

During a war, or terrorist attack, how do we respond? How do we keep in contact?
Some of the things which we take for granted :
– torchlight
– FM radio
– can opener (during Reservist, we realised cocktails cans are useless without the can opener!)
– batteries!

Sometimes, we always assume that Somehow Someone will know Something!
(or worse, government will handle everything)

If we parents are not prepared, who will protect our family?
http://www.stayprepared.sg/about-stay-prepared-starter-kits.html
http://www.e101.gov.sg/
http://www.scdf.gov.sg/content/scdf_internet/en/community-and-volunteers/community-preparedness/community-programmes/ready-bag.html

How to go to Fire Station open house

– Every Sat from 9 to 11am, do pop by your neighbourhood Fire Stations open house. Take the opportunity to educate the kids about safety awareness (our Fire station visit)

Blood Donation anyone?